Casual Dating – A Dying Trend

2005-2008 was the period when dating sites were mushrooming all over. Casual dating was not just trending but was the flavor of the season among teenagers and young adults.

Casual dating is a physical and emotional relationship between two people who may have casual sex without necessarily demanding the extra commitments of a more formal romantic relationship which in a few cases, may lead to Love Actually.

Sites like Coffee Meets Bagel, OKCupid, Tinder offer options for online dating. There are sites that are religion specific such as Muslima.com and what not. And on these websites, you will find all set of people viz committed, married, even in the 40s itself.

Casual Dating is merely a term now, but is it for you?

Before you start casual dating ask yourself, what you are looking for? Are you really okay with the men / women you date, going out and potentially sleeping with other sleeping? If the answer is Yes then go ahead and enjoy. If the answer is No then casual dating isn’t for you.

Be specific.

Tell the guy / girl about what you’re looking for, no need to get into much details but you would be able to sense if the other person is just as practical as you are. Things just won't stay casual if you’re dating only one person.

 

So go out and experiment with different looks, personalities, and outlooks on life. You might just surprise yourself and find exactly what you’ve been looking for. At the very least, you’ll broaden your horizons. Also, for many people, there is nothing casual about sex. Making love often triggers a feeling of emotional investment, so be cautious. If you develop deeper feelings for the other you are well within your rights to confess them but expecting him / her to reciprocate would be unfair. 

If you go on a couple of dates with a guy and the chemistry just isn’t there, don’t pretend like you don’t see him, the next time you pass him in the street or in the office. Have the politeness to smile, say hello. You don’t have to avoid each other just because the sparks didn’t fly.

In the same manner, if the sparks happen to turn into fireworks on the first or second date, control your urge to call your new flame every half an hour or drop by his place unexpectedly just to say Hi. 

There is so much complication involved whether you embrace casual dating or not. You will always know things that your friends who are into committed relationships don’t know and vice versa. Feel grateful for the opportunities you get to experiment with new people and experience some variety of the so-called Spice of Life. Likewise, respect the opinion of the category who like to stick to a single relationship throughout life.

Rgds,

NSK

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